Early on in our grief journey the tears never seem to stop. It’s as if we are drowning in a bottomless well of pain filled tears. Just when we think there are no more tears left – grief wells up and our hearts ache again and again and again…
The pain of losing someone we love is so overwhelming yet as time passes… and we “journey through” our grief, we are able to see new horizons and feel again the warm breeze on our cheeks, instead of the endless tides of tears.
However, sometimes for no clear reason a thought or a picture of our loved one, will cross our minds and with it brings a wave of tears and heartache. I think the tears are a reminder of the love we shared on this journey and yet gives us the opportunity to pray for our loved one and for ourselves.
The tears of missing someone who has died are overwhelming but as time passes transform into a blessed gift because they are a reminder of the deep spiritual connection that we feel with this person and of the love that we have shared – a love that remains with us throughout our lives to eternity. The love we have for someone who has died, to this life, does not end…love never ends…
(Interesting if you read the Douay Rheims Bible, love is spoken of as charity.)
1 Corinthians 13
If I speak with the tongues of men, and of angels, and have not charity, I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal. And if I should have prophecy and should know all mysteries, and all knowledge, and if I should have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing. And if I should distribute all my goods to feed the poor, and if I should deliver my body to be burned, and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing. Charity is patient, is kind: charity envieth not, dealeth not perversely; is not puffed up; Is not ambitious, seeketh not her own, is not provoked to anger, thinketh no evil;
Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth with the truth; Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. Charity never falleth away: whether prophecies shall be made void, or tongues shall cease, or knowledge shall be destroyed. For we know in part, and we prophesy in part. But when that which is perfect is come, that which is in part shall be done away.
When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child. But, when I became a man, I put away the things of a child. We see now through a glass in a dark manner; but then face to face. Now I know in part; but then I shall know even as I am known. And now there remain faith, hope, and charity, these three: but the greatest of these is charity.
“And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes: and death shall be no more, nor mourning, nor crying, nor sorrow shall be any more, for the former things are passed away.”